under the fuzzy blanket
ive honestly debated on on and off for years about creating a separate, anonymous blog that had a sole purpose of just letting me gripe. it would let me say whatever insensitive, taboo thing that was on my mind instead of letting it pace around in my brain. it may still happen one day soon. if it already existed, what i'm about to say would go there instead. unfortunately, this is where it has to go for now. it's a very negative, scroogey but authentic side of me. i don't normally show it because everyone thinks i'm just "so nice". this is what's under the fuzzy blanket.
more than ever, i think charities are a crock. it especially frustrates me during the christmas season, where everyone is in the giving mood and they get recognized for their donations to this or that.
the angel on my shoulder wants you to know that i do not despise humans that are truly in need. i don't want people to needlessly suffer, and there are a few out there. that being said, i'd wager that 90% of the people benefitting from people's generosity aren't truly in need.
i know lots of people on government assistance. i know lots of people on unemployment. i know lots of people who live in "meager" conditions. and despite all those things i still firmly believe that more than their circumstances, they are in their predicaments because they don't budget their money, they abuse the system, and they spend what they have unwisely.
i can't justify donating food or money to a family with several children who all have cell phones, cable, several gaming systems, and fake fingernails. they are out at the bars on the weekend and chain smoking, eating out at restaurants and letting tons of people crash at their place. they barely work or they are picky about what job they apply for, which gives them a perfect excuse to remain unemployed. they've found some quack doctor to call them handicapped, so they claim disability. these are not parts of a lifestyle i wish to help them out with.
"but they can't pay their electric bill!" then i guess they should have their cable turned off and their cell services backed down. maybe every able-bodied person in the house should get a job.
"but they don't have any food!" that's because they used their money on other things.
"but their income is so low and they have a bunch of people to support!" okay, sometimes this happens. for instance, you get a grandmother who takes in a bunch of grandchildren. that's somebody who needs help, as long as she isn't supplying cell phones to all the kids and has a husband who won't get off his rump to help her.
i love my cell phone, my internet, and my cable. i'd be grumpy without them. but they aren't necessities!
i hear about people who won't have much money to give christmas to their children because funds are low. it's a sad story until you see the enormous television in their living room and 57 dogs and cats that they've decided to parent.
i just feel like paying someone's bill or giving them money just enables them. for the most part, they have bad habits that aren't going to go away just because they get rescued a few times.
i've been dangerously low on funds. you know what i did? i sold a lot of jewelry, electronics, and books. i parted with a lot of things i enjoyed. i got another job. when i didn't have groceries, i stretched what i had. sometimes it was crackers and ketchup.i made it work until the next payday. it was embarassing and difficult, but i survived. i'm fortunate that i have people in my life to help.
there really are people that need help during the holiday season and various times of the year. i helped raise money for a family who lost a child and couldn't pay the funeral expenses. that's need. but did you know that lots of people who get their food from church pantries actually take that food and try to return to places like walmart (that don't require a receipt)? they aren't hungry, they just want cash to use for.....whatever. those are the same people who will ask you to help pay their electric next month.
call me a scrooge, i have big shoulders. i just have no sympathy for people who want other people to foot the bill for their lifestyle. i keep my eyes open for the ones who honestly need assistance, but there really aren't that many.
more than ever, i think charities are a crock. it especially frustrates me during the christmas season, where everyone is in the giving mood and they get recognized for their donations to this or that.
the angel on my shoulder wants you to know that i do not despise humans that are truly in need. i don't want people to needlessly suffer, and there are a few out there. that being said, i'd wager that 90% of the people benefitting from people's generosity aren't truly in need.
i know lots of people on government assistance. i know lots of people on unemployment. i know lots of people who live in "meager" conditions. and despite all those things i still firmly believe that more than their circumstances, they are in their predicaments because they don't budget their money, they abuse the system, and they spend what they have unwisely.
i can't justify donating food or money to a family with several children who all have cell phones, cable, several gaming systems, and fake fingernails. they are out at the bars on the weekend and chain smoking, eating out at restaurants and letting tons of people crash at their place. they barely work or they are picky about what job they apply for, which gives them a perfect excuse to remain unemployed. they've found some quack doctor to call them handicapped, so they claim disability. these are not parts of a lifestyle i wish to help them out with.
"but they can't pay their electric bill!" then i guess they should have their cable turned off and their cell services backed down. maybe every able-bodied person in the house should get a job.
"but they don't have any food!" that's because they used their money on other things.
"but their income is so low and they have a bunch of people to support!" okay, sometimes this happens. for instance, you get a grandmother who takes in a bunch of grandchildren. that's somebody who needs help, as long as she isn't supplying cell phones to all the kids and has a husband who won't get off his rump to help her.
i love my cell phone, my internet, and my cable. i'd be grumpy without them. but they aren't necessities!
i hear about people who won't have much money to give christmas to their children because funds are low. it's a sad story until you see the enormous television in their living room and 57 dogs and cats that they've decided to parent.
i just feel like paying someone's bill or giving them money just enables them. for the most part, they have bad habits that aren't going to go away just because they get rescued a few times.
i've been dangerously low on funds. you know what i did? i sold a lot of jewelry, electronics, and books. i parted with a lot of things i enjoyed. i got another job. when i didn't have groceries, i stretched what i had. sometimes it was crackers and ketchup.i made it work until the next payday. it was embarassing and difficult, but i survived. i'm fortunate that i have people in my life to help.
there really are people that need help during the holiday season and various times of the year. i helped raise money for a family who lost a child and couldn't pay the funeral expenses. that's need. but did you know that lots of people who get their food from church pantries actually take that food and try to return to places like walmart (that don't require a receipt)? they aren't hungry, they just want cash to use for.....whatever. those are the same people who will ask you to help pay their electric next month.
call me a scrooge, i have big shoulders. i just have no sympathy for people who want other people to foot the bill for their lifestyle. i keep my eyes open for the ones who honestly need assistance, but there really aren't that many.
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